Each person who strives for maturity must come to grips with the influences of their upbringing. But it’s more nuanced than just “blaming” your parents etc. We attract that which we resonate with or, not. Spiritually speaking, the path is one of rising up out of instinct, subconsciousness, and environmental influences into conscious and intentional living and then finally upwards to super-consciousness, that is, divine attunement.